MAY: Presence
Presence is a noun, and we experience presence as a state of being. It is the opposite of absence, yet there are higher and lower levels of presence. For example, we can be physically present and mentally absent, lost in our own world. Likewise, we can be mentally present and emotionally absent.
Emotional presence is the highest level of engagement and interaction. Emotional presence signals interpersonal safety and carries with it the silent gift and power of empathy. Presence is the container in which we can bear witness to another person, to help carry an emotional burden, and to connect in such a way that makes others feel seen and heard.
We typically do not understand the true value and importance of our earliest containers until later in life when we realize their emotional presence was the safe water in which we swam. It is a rare gift when someone recognizes and appreciates us for who we are and for how we are, without trying to change us and without any judgment.
What meeting practices help you get out of your head and show up for others in a focused and emotionally present way?
In what ways do you experience the group as a neutral, non-judgmental sounding board?
Give an example of a recent time when your level of emotional presence helped you resolve a conflict.
What qualities of the safe container could you use with yourself when you’re feeling tired, lonely, or stuck?
Emotional presence can sometimes be energizing and sometimes draining. What makes a difference between gain and drain?
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