August - CLOSURE
We often think of closure as a sense of psychological completion, an ending that includes reflection or a feeling that an experience has been processed.
When closure feels too hard, an instinct to minimize pain can trigger a desire to end things quickly or quietly -– short-cutting the opportunity to process and grow from an experience. Abrupt and unexpected endings can leave us psychologically whiplashed and vulnerable to the actions of others. On the other hand, some endings drag on and on, leaving us exhausted and depleted.
In this conversation, think about the difference between endings that leave you with a good feeling or a bad taste in your mouth. Also consider if it is ever too late to repair a bad ending.
What activity, obligation or relationship comes to mind along the lines of “Been there, SO done with that!
What you would love to bring to closure but it’s dragging on and on?
Is there a gap in your life, an emptiness that can’t ever be closed? What anchors you as you grieve the loss?
What feelings do endings bring up for you? How can you honor yourself and the other when things end?
In what ways might your experience in wForum reinforce your capacity for honest, healthy and timely closure?
What ideas will you take from this conversation?